Great Lies For The Asperger’s Development
Written by SAPL on December 24th, 2018 in Communication.
Many parents cringe when they know their child is telling a lie, but parents of Asperger children may want to celebrate.
Those on the spectrum have difficulty refraining from the truth, so when a lie is created, there are several reasons why you may want to reconsider it an issue.
In an article from Fatherly, there are several “harsh truths” about lying.
1. Toddlers can’t tell a lie. This is due to “Theory of Mind,” another concept that is thought to be impaired in those on the spectrum, even as they exit the toddler years.
2. Parents should celebrate a lie, as this indicates the child is progressing in development.
3. Lying is a skill. It protects people. It enables social situations to go more smoothly.
4. Lack of lies may indicate cognitive delays, such as Asperger’s. And this may be the perfect time to seek cognitive and social therapy to enhance these skills so you little tyke can grow up to lie like a politician.
5. People should learn when to lie. To your wife when she asks if she’s fat. Yes. To the American people when you’re under political oath. Probably not.
6. Parents who lie are not hypocrites. They are simply trying to instill great social skills so their kids can grow up, win friends and influence people.
Alright. So maybe the reasons to lie are a little “stretched.” That’s okay. The basic idea is that there are situations that require lying and it’s okay to learn how to elegantly do so. With that piece of advice, here are a few lies everyone should learn, from childhood to adult. Aspergers should never be given less hardy goals, so they should learn these too. In order from youngest age to adulthood:
1. I ate my vegetables. When there is a strand of spinach clearly hanging from the dog’s mouth.
2. I am sick today. When you just watched the child place the thermometer from under the lamp and it’s pretty hard for humans to run a 108 degree Fahrenheit temperature.
3. I am going over to [insert friend’s name] to study. You then find child and friend at [insert popular hangout for kids] doing interesting academic work that involves chatting, playing video games, etc.
4. I am still in college. When you see the credit card statement for strange purchases that don’t involve tuition.
5. I am 30. When you are unable to count age for the last 15 years.
6. This is my real hair. Insert any other body part, male or female.
7. I own a country. Or an island. Whichever sounds more exotic. Actually, both, a country AND an island. I’m also a prince.
